Registration opens February 1.
Seats are limited.

(Online) Workshop Overview: Healing After Covert Narcissistic Abuse

A practical, trauma-informed workshop for rebuilding clarity, boundaries, and self-trust.

Who this workshop is for

This workshop is for people who feel emotionally depleted and scrambled after a relationship that looked “subtle” on the surface but left real damage underneath—constant self-doubt, walking on eggshells, guilt, confusion, or a sense that you’re always the one explaining, apologising, and trying harder.

You don’t need to label anyone as a narcissist to benefit; the focus is on your healing, not diagnosing someone else.

What you’ll leave with

By the end of the workshop, participants will have:

• A clear understanding of common covert manipulation patterns (e.g., guilt, victim-playing, passive aggression, gaslighting, double binds, triangulation).

• Tools to regulate the nervous system after chronic relational stress.

• A framework to rebuild self-trust and reduce rumination (“Was it me?” loops).

• Boundary scripts that work when the other person is skilled at turning things around.

• A personal “Recovery Map” for support, practices, and do-not-do pitfalls.

Format at a glance

• Length: 2-day intensive (6 hours)

• Delivery: Online (trauma-informed, confidential, opt-in sharing)

• Teaching style: Psychoeducation + guided exercises + skills practice + reflection

Core themes

1. Clarity over confusion: identifying tactics without obsessing over labels

2. Safety over debate: boundaries that don’t require the other person’s agreement

3. Body + brain healing: trauma responses, nervous system regulation, and self-compassion

4. Self-trust: rebuilding confidence in your perceptions and choices

5. Healthy connection: how to relate again without repeating the pattern
   

Workshop modules (sample agenda)

Module 1 — The Covert Pattern: Why It’s So Hard to Name

Focus: The “nice on the outside, harmful underneath” dynamic

• Covert tactics: subtle shaming, martyrdom, blame-shifting, “concern trolling,” silent treatment, plausible deniability

• Why you feel addicted to explaining: intermittent reinforcement + hope cycles

• Exercise: “Confusion to Clarity” mapping (what happened / what I felt / what I was told it meant)

Module 2 — Gaslighting & Self-Doubt: Reclaiming Reality

Focus: trusting your perception again

• Gaslighting vs. misunderstanding: how to tell the difference

• The “JADE trap” (justify, argue, defend, explain)

• Exercise: Reality-check journaling + evidence-based self-validation

Module 3 — Nervous System Repair: From Hypervigilance to Grounded

Focus: calming the body that’s learned danger in connection

• Fight/flight/freeze/fawn in covert abuse dynamics

• Micro-regulation tools (breath, orienting, grounding, tremor release, containment)

• Practice: 10-minute guided reset + “before/after” self-scan

Module 4 — Boundaries That Hold (Even When They Push Back)

Focus: firm, minimal, non-escalating boundaries

• Boundary myths: “If I explain better, they’ll understand”

• Scripts: BIFF responses (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm), “broken record,” “grey rock,” selective engagement

• Practice: role-plays + personal boundary statement design

Module 5 — Detaching From the Hook: Guilt, Obligation, and Fear

Focus: the emotional levers that keep you stuck

• FOG (Fear–Obligation–Guilt) and how it’s installed

• Reframing guilt: appropriate vs. conditioned guilt

• Exercise: “Guilt Audit” + values-based decision filter

Module 6 — Rebuilding You: Identity, Voice, and Healthy Relating

Focus: moving from survival to choice

• Repairing self-concept after chronic criticism

• Green flags: what healthy conflict looks like

• Plan: your Recovery Map (support network, practices, boundaries, no-contact/low-contact parameters if relevant)

Safety + trauma-informed guidelines

• You control your level of sharing (pass is always allowed).

• No forced confrontation or “write a letter to them” exercises unless you choose.

• Emphasis on stabilization, self-trust, and practical tools—not pathologising.

• This workshop is educational and supportive, not a replacement for therapy.

Outcome promise (clear and ethical)

You won’t leave with a perfect explanation for the other person. You’ll leave with something better: clarity, nervous system tools, and a plan—so you can stop living in reaction mode and start making choices that protect you.

Note: this is a live online workshop. It will not be recorded therefore no afterplay will be shared. If you cannot attend, the workshop is non-refundable or transferable.

Thank you.